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I wish, I want

7/15/2013

 
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Who do you want to be? What qualities to want foster that you don't currently have.

" It's never too late to become the person you wish you were."


I stumbled across this quote.  and it has stuck to me like glue. Or perhaps a parasite from Mars. (This is more apt consider the things I write.) Never mind that I've heard this same idea phrased differently a thousand times. It's the substitution of "wish you were" instead of "want to be."

Want

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verb (used with object)
1. to feel a need or a desire for; wish for: to want one's dinner; always wanting something new.
2. to wish, need, crave, demand, or desire (often followed by an infinitive): I want to see you. She wants to be notified.
3. to be without or be deficient in: to want judgment; to want knowledge.
4. to fall short by (a specified amount): The sum collected wants but a few dollars of the desired amount.
5. to require or need: The house wants painting.

verb (used without object)
6. to feel inclined; wish; like (often followed by to  ): We can stay home if you want.
7. to be deficient by the absence of some part or thing, or to feel or have a need (sometimes followed by for  ): He did not want for abilities.
8. to have need (usually followed by for  ): If you want for anything, let him know.
9. to be in a state of destitution, need, or poverty: She would never allow her parents to want.
10. to be lacking or absent, as a part or thing necessary to completeness: All that wants is his signature.

Wish

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verb (used with object)
1. to want; desire; long for (usually followed by an infinitive or a clause): I wish to travel. I wish that it were morning.
2. to desire (a person or thing) to be (as specified): to wish the problem settled.
3. to entertain wishes, favorably or otherwise, for: to wish someone well; to wish someone ill.
4. to bid, as in greeting or leave-taking: to wish someone a good morning.
5. to request or charge: I wish him to come.

verb (used without object)
6. to desire; long; yearn (often followed by for  ): Mother says I may go if I wish. I wished for a book.
7. to make a wish: She wished more than she worked.

Oops

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I thought the definitions would clarify the difference between these two words.

Oh well (insert shrug.)

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These words are different. Well to me at least. Want feels solid. As in "I want a hamburger."  (I do. No, really. The photo explains why I can't have one.)

Wish is less concrete. As in "I wish I could turn into a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.."

This does not necessarily mean I want to turn into a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, only that I think it would be cool if I could. Unless I got stuck that way and something horrible happened like getting eaten or I sprouting mold. That would be really uncool.


Love yourself toughly

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Me 3.0 would be more social, less of a worry wort, less "mehaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!", make better choices and most of all eat healthier and exercise. If I got thinner, great. If not it doesn't matter because those last two things will impact how I approach the world. When I'm good to myself I feel better, my thoughts are clearer (exercise has that funky side affect, who knew?) and I worry less (about stuff other than drowning. I've been swimming a lot.)

I heard someone once say something about loving yourself enough to eat well. This also struck a never though I didn't understand why until I sat down to write this.

Suddenly I see it's a lot like tough love... you know like when you kick the kids out of the house so they can grow up. (To be clear I don't have any kids.) Tough love for yourself is having the strength to turn down wants so that wishes can come true.


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